Those Small little things in Life

It is just a matter of redirecting energy and attention a woman gives his man just like a mirror. Most of the time men don’t realize that how important little things are to a women. Sometime men think little things are insignificant. Those successful men in relationships have done so many little things once or twice or thrice and most of the times every now and then. 

To fulfill a woman, a man needs to do those small little things in life to feel loved & supported. Basically a women needs lot of expressions of love in the relationship to feel loved. No matter how much big you do it, it matters only you are doing it always and if you do it still great. 

Doing many little things is the secret of fulfilling women’s heart, she feels loved more, she responds with greater love, trust, appreciation, acceptance, admiration & encouragement. Remember this always, fill it over and over. You never knew the happiness and overflow of love for those little things, she knew she is loved more, trusting and she loves in return without resentment. 

That’s the best healing for the man and that heals the resentments. In turn, man begins to feel powerful and effective because she is getting caring she needs. I had nothing to give, is the naive thought, similar to I was doing the best by working hard to provide better life. Women has the most of loving feelings and when she is being honest never make her to be persistent in asking you for the love, that will flow automatically.

Men will have to start realizing that how wonderful it is to be loved for doing little things. Because she has the ability to heal a man of her addiction and also succeed by appreciating the little things he does. Don’t strive for bigger things, those little things make her happy. 

-The Magic of little things 

- Inspired by those little things in life.

Hugs

The warmth of her body and how her clothes smelled seemed to be my forever craving things. It is always so much magical, it is everything anyone could ever wish for.

It is a hug of every soul wishes for, it is love.

I could hear nothing but just her sound of breath and feel her heartbeat.

She opened her eyes, with the water showering from the tides. She rubbed her hands, looking around for a while, the sound of tides that strikes the rocks made her pause. She smiled, held me tightly, pulled me closer and put her arms around my shoulder and rested on my chest.

I have no idea how does this feel to embrace a girl, with the hug fitting it with experience and feeling; nevertheless, it is a timeless moment.

Have you ever felt the heartbeat louder, when she stands right in front of you, smiling and eyes closed?

Nobody wants to end it - the rhythm of love

Hugs leave an invisible scar in the heart. That feeling doesn’t last long. 

-- Soul that wishes forever

Part -2: Isolation vs quarantine : Relationship vs Distance

Part-2: Continued…. 

In the previous part, I did mention, missing each other shows your relationship is healthier. But, it is important to keep aside the differences that raise self-esteem and personal dignity while inspiring mutual trust, personal responsibility, bring in increased cooperation and greater love. 

The story most of you would have experienced, so did my friend too, after his marriage. The couple has been together in love for almost 10years, since college days. One fine day their dream came true, the day of knot and ring. A year later; after a week of their son was born, his wife Natasa and Stephen were completely sick. It happens, their son kept waking them, while Natasa couldn’t bear the pain of delivery she underwent. She was barely able to walk and had to live through pains with the medicines prescribed, that’s how she manages herself and feel better. 

Days later, Natasa ran out of medicines, while Stephen was busy held up in an assignment at the office. Ram, Stephens’ brother visited their place accidentally and assured to get pain killers and sadly Ram did not return with the medicines. I know how terrible it should be with distress and pain. When Stephen returned, he felt the guilt of what happened and understood Natasa is upset and also misunderstood the emotions. Natasa said, “Hey Steve, I have been in pain all day, the prescribed medicine is over, I was paralysed on the bed and nobody to care for me or my son”. 

Steve replied, “ Why didn’t you call me?” 

She replied, “ I asked Ram to get it for me, while he was here this noon for the books he was looking for and he forgot. I was waiting for him this long and he never turned up once and I couldn’t walk any further and felt helpless on the bed” 

Steve exploded inside, the fuse has gone, angry that she didn’t call him, was thinking that

she was blaming him, rather understanding the pain. Steve, started exchanging harsh words, and they both had already exhausted and exceeded their limits. As steve couldn’t tolerate, he walked towards the door, took his keys from the hook and while about to open the doors, Natasa said, “Wait, Don't go, don’t leave me, where are you going, this is the time I need you the most. I am in pain, not slept all these days, stop and please listen to me steve”.

Read it once again, read it carefully, as long as she was sweet, loving, romantic, caring, he was there with her, but the moment she is not, he tries walks through the door. 

Stephen paused, put the keys back and covered his tears in the elbow, slowly turned back, while Natsa had her tears running down and with the low tone she said, “ I have nothing to give you, I am in complete pain and this is the moment I completely need you. Please come next to me, I am not even asking you to speak, just come closer”, Steve moved closer, she held his hands and said, “I just need to feel your arms around, ly my head on your shoulders”. 

All she needed to be was his arms, shoulders to rest, wept on his arms and a few minutes later she whispered in his ear, “ Thanks Steve, I Love you” and once again she pulled him closer. With the melody on the background, stars lightened up the night. 

The bell rang, it was Dawn, Sunkissed moments, the time was 0610hrs. 

All women want is just to understand the real meaning of love. That’s the moment of unconditional love, most of the time we may feel we are loving persons, when she is unhappy or ill, people feel liable, then argue and distance themselves. Feel great by not leaving your loved ones during pain, stay with them, feel the love, succeeded in giving what they need and be the hour of the time. It always feels easy to look in a way of supporting, the way you show each other, but may not be every time. Women instinctively knew things, but, what you need to know is, touching, holding and most importantly listening to them patiently are more and most important. Friends, by knowing the differences of each other begin the life, resolve this momentary hurdles use this quarantine to understand each other so that conflicts can be easily scraped.

Dedicated to my love... 

Isolation Vs Quarantine : Relationship Vs Distance

Isolation vs Quarantine: Relationship vs Distance

 Part-1

Don’t be anxious about isolation. Quarantine time is more valuable, be it spending together or away, is an opportunity to strengthen the relationship.

Extension of lockdown might even mean increasing romantic lives together soon. Don’t be frenzy about the questions that arise in your mind.

But, I have a question to ask, how about your emotional level now?

What have are you doing to keep your relationship happy and healthy during this pandemic?

This quarantine could lead to one of the two ways; it could suddenly mean we spend much more time together or much less. Self-isolation is an opportunity to "test your strength of feeling". Self-isolating away from your partner, by now would not have taken long for you to start missing them and physical contact.

More than just loneliness, not being able to talk to someone, or see them over a video call is not as fulfilling as having them close; Psychologically – they term it as Skin hunger, the desire of not able to meet and be in physical, which is the most human desire of longing for one. In the process of desire for others, most people dwell too much on their past experiences; most of it is ruinous to their ongoing wellbeing.

Playing with pets, scrolling pictures, hugging the pillow, looking at the flower that tunes chorus from its branches to its mother earth and the dream goes on. Many couples are now facing the prospect of spending apart.

                                                                                                              

Those isolated partners are probably not used to the amount of time they are now spending apart. As their romantic lives, work lives, and domestic lives have already begun to pile on top of each other and those of them are here. The importance of finding space from each other might be paramount but needs to be addressed.

In the current situation, you might lose your boundaries sometimes things may be so blurred. It is hard to know when work stops and relationships start.

It’s important to create opportunities to find your own space, and treat time together. This is something that people with experience of long-distance relationships are already doing. And there is more that we can learn from spending time apart well to understand each other more. Talk about the positives and find the individual interests, work mutually plan the future together, this might be better off being apart.

Missing each other shows your relationship is healthier. The day you reunite, with the greatest feeling, that day would be of commitment towards togetherness. The more attempts you use with positivity, openness and assurances to maintain your relationship would be nurtured.

 To be continued...

How to Evolve in Relationships ?

Evolve or Resolve?

Resolutions are the most celebrated word when the clock ticks 2359hrs of every year December 31, resolutions have been part of your breath and mine too that’s only on every new-year. In your daily routine, family, business, trades, personal life and what not; when it comes to a relationship should we resolve or evolve?

How to evolve in relationships!!

Resolving manifests the ability to solve a problem or difficulty, finding an answer, making a decision, bringing a disagreement to an end. Though we certainly do solve problems, make decisions and conclude conflicts with our partners, are we fully finishing it? No.

Most couples have chronic issues that they continue to negotiate for a lifetime. Our relationships are in a continual process of “evolution,” growing healthier and stronger or becoming weaker and more fragile. It is the never-ending, continual process of consciously creating the head and heart connecting the ongoing actions and words exchanged between two people.

One of our most valuable human characteristics is the capacity to consciously evolve. Once we reach a certain point of self-awareness what happens is significantly interpersonal relationship fails to keep pace with our self-creation?

There are three parts to every relationship; you, your partner, and the relationship that the two of you create by virtue of what you bring to the table.

As we evolve, our contribution to the relationship changes. If our partner is not moving in parallel with us, the relationship can become limiting to the point of frustration.

Moving in a similar mental & physical state doesn’t mean evolving together. Rather, it is a decision to acceptance of change and a recognition that things are not only different from now but will continue to become different further.

For example, if one partner has in the past been less fortunate, he or she has set up anticipation around deception. Should that same partner choose to work on becoming more transparent while the other partner continues to exercise his or her expectation that there is bound to be some deception, the relationship becomes unbalanced. With the gap between evolution and expectation maintained, or even magnified, this imbalance will then lead to absolute instability.

Understanding that an effort towards transparency will likely be met with resistance based on past expectations provides us with some different perspectives. This understanding allows us to hold space for the resistance, giving our partner by association and the relationship giving an opportunity to catch up.

The key here is to set a personal boundary that holds space and allow for that partner’s resistance without putting ourselves at risk or disadvantage.

As an author,

For the two of us, home isn't a place. It is the person. And we are finally home!!!

Involve & Evolve!!!

Freedom & Eternity!!!

Original Painting by Ms. Mercy Sugunya,
Acrylic Painting. An Entrepreneur & an Artist.
Mail Id: sugan2772@gmail.com.

Below Script was scribed based on the two images Shared by my friends Ms. Mercy Sugunya & Ms. Manisha Hariharan.

Author’s Insights…

There are dreams that remain buried,

Deep inside each of you, those are never shattered, neither built nor taken from them. Most of that dreams are completely free, completely themselves and completely with one.

Dream of fulfilment, dream of love and dream of eternal life

For most out there, freedom is unsatisfied goal of fulfilling self. An unattainable desire, but for that very reason it is ignored. 

By promising someone an eternal life, it destitute the temporal life, by teaching them to trust in God’s help it takes away the trust in their own powers; by giving them faith in a better life in heaven, it destroys the faith in a better life on earth and the effort it takes to attain such a life. Freedom gives human the power of imagination to desire, but for that very reason failed to get what they really and truly desire for.

For any person the first priority is raising the level of consciousness with freedom. The desire to be aware of oneself and one’s actions contributes to it to a great extent and it is advisable to have some time set aside for this practice every day. When you look at the entire reality as such from within and from the inside out; the inner level of the Soul always desires to attain freedom and eternity. 

Original Sketch by Ms. Manisha Hariharan, Artist
Charcoal Pencil & Water colour.
Contact Mail: manishaallihariharan@gmail.com

The Voice of freedom fighter…

The pounding of my feet and the agonising pace of my heart were the only things I could hear as I sprinted down the never ending street towards freedom and eternity. I couldn’t look behind me in fear of what I might see and the possible consequences of allowing my attention to slip for even a second. I just had to keep riding as if I wanted to live. If I wanted to be happy, I decided to be alone. After all I went through to get this far I just couldn’t give up now and go back to it. I was so close to what I had longed for. I could finally see the street ending with the rays of sun settling down. I pushed myself to reach that place so I could rest and close my eyes for a minute.

The thought of finally getting away was the only thing motivating me to ride this long. Freedom motivates me to get away from the pain and suffering that would finally finish and I could be my own person again. All that I found is a peaceful place, under a tree, swinging for eternity.

All this freedom and eternity isn’t there all these years of being home, being discriminated, being intimidated and almost killing me. A cheap bed, notorious men around and the deserted place reminds of the tearing moments on the bed when being persecuted all that for money, sex and fantasy. Pushed them away breaking the doors, looked around for the triumph in search of Freedom and Eternity. 

Now that, I have gone for too long so I shall build myself a new life, here, in the deserted town and the hop my voice and personality may return one day.

The First Kiss

Original Acrylic Painting by Ms. Mercy Suganya - Entrepreneur
Artist - Owner & Proprietor (Her's - An exclusive women wear shop)
Mail Id: sugan2772@gmail.com

Below story was scripted based on the image shared by my friend who is an artist; Image left side

It was a splendid, colourful autumn. While I was waiting for people to join for the sessions, with the horns tearing the ears, just left the coffee cup aside on the balcony, I turned towards the corridor, she walked inside. She walked by, she giggled, looked at me with those curly hairs and with the pumpkin smile. She was nicely tucked, styled at dawn; the beauty that she embraces is the beauty of nature. The unique charm she carries, her mysterious, strong willed, easy to talk nature killed me then.

“I don’t drink coffee”, she said with a witty voice, when I stretched my hand. Never had, was never an emotion until, she denied with that comical gesture. I, then decided to afflict her once I begin the session, but then she never looked into my eyes while I tried to fit it, ‘it was the best thing I have ever experienced’, said to myself. Two hours passed, while everyone has started leaving the place post sessions. She stood still there near the lift; I peered out of corridor to see if someone has come to pick her up. Walked slowly towards the lift; an open glass covered, well fashioned interior, with dreamy lighting on 8th floor. 

I felt tingled; she grabbed me closer, ‘I pushed away’, as lift closed. “Don’t be silly,” spoke to myself. With the gaze still on her, she crouched down to pick her keys, fumbling in the breeze, stubbing my fingers, abnormal breath and I stood toothless.They said that first kisses are special, and they are for that certain special person, yes, it is… But, to someone who is charming and elegant, it is never so. After a split second, she pulled me close to her and our lips touched and I nibbled her, the doors opened on the ground floor. They said that, when you have had experienced your first kiss, you’ll feel the butterflies fluttering, the sparks flashing. But from then, I had been craving for more.

Her smile zapped my heart every time. Only then I realized how heavenly it is for those rain drops have been kissed by the soil; it was raining outside. I stared, hopeless with moment of shy, shrugged my shoulders, ‘How could you get to home in this condition?’, spoke my heart out with a wink. A flurry light thundered from the sky, wetting her hood. She did sigh at me, held my hand, and melted my heart against her warm palm. Paused for the rain on the platform, gazing at her curly hair, trying to figure out how it happened. 

She pulled out her umbrella, I couldn’t help but held her tightly, knowing that she is infectious, yet, I got infected now with all her love and care for me. Those feathery, colorful paths, with joy, laughter, gusting trees around, with my favorite red umbrella we walked together on the mirrors of soil, experiencing the best autumn ever one would…

You’re gorgeous, sweet and funny. I never thought I’d have crushes, blush, and would frame a fairy tale that is eternal. But you have taken the butterflies to a whole new level to need more.